An obiter dictum

When you want-to-be/feel alone, with a head-full of thoughts, its time for some silent musings, some personal cerebrations, some place to put down your thoughts- may be to come back to them, read, ponder and wonder at the flights of fantasy of humans! Carry on to read some persuasions of a weird mind ;-)

Saturday, November 13, 2004

The Natural Progression of a Relationship !

      I don't have any slightest ideas as to from where I copied this! Its from some site (you can google and also lemme know, I'm too lazy to do that now!). I'm not sure if it applies to others too or how commonplace is this procedure of falling in love; but I feel the same in my case! And of course, would like to know how others feel about it.
      During 'Diwali cleanliness drive' I found this deep inside one of my folders - Oh by the way I was cleaning my Hard Disk. Thought would share this with others too!

So n'joy being in love . . . .

1) Interest and Attraction -- this is where two people initially see or meet each other and decide they both want to get to know each other better.
2) Infatuation and Falling in Love -- this is the stage where you become blinded by your emotions and oftentimes behave like a love-sick puppy dog. The attention and mushiness of the other person makes you feel really great about yourself and you begin to fall "in love".This is all about how YOU feel about yourself because of the other person. IT is NOT love. It is that thing that reduces you to a slobbering fool who speaks in "baby talk".
3) The Comfort Zone -- this is where you start to relax, and move out of the infatuation stage into something more "real". This is also the time where feelings begin to deepen towards the other person while experiencing a reduced feeling of being "in love".

After being in this stage for awhile many people make the mistake of thinking the relationship is in trouble because they aren't still infatuated. In reality, the relationship is beginning to grow into Mature Love. So many people bail at this point and never actually reach the "Love" stage.
4) Mature Love -- this is the real deal, folks. You have reached the point of having a genuinely mature relationship, that, if you have chosen the right partner, is a beautiful thing.


Reaching Stage 4 doesn't mean the fun is all over, though. You can and will go from stage to stage at different times throughout the relationship. You can even learn to do things that will make you and your partner feel infatuated and falling in love all over again. Most relationships are either made or broken during the Comfort Zone.

1 Comments:

  • At 10:20 PM, Blogger Mark a Unit said…

    Ekidasobelas
    traumatic hike

    guess the meanings :P

    nice blog , waiting for more stuff

     

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